1 Peter 3:7 (ESV)
7 Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.
I will admit it here and now, I was not prepared to be a husband when I got married over 28 years ago. Honestly I thought it would all just come to me naturally. I guess I thought I could just “wing it”.
Nothing could be farther from the truth for any man, there is not a young, single man walking the planet today that has a clue, about how to be a husband and there are many older married men today in the same boat.
That boat will sink and your marriage will either fight to tread water, or will drown because of apathy. Are you apathetic in your marriage? Are you day dreaming about a “better life” without her, or with someone else?
That is not a dream, it’s really a nightmare and you need to wake up. The past is the past, so do not linger on what has already happened. Awake form your slumber and start bailing water, repair the holes and the get ready to hoist a sail. It is time to get this marriage underway.
You start by living with your wife in an understanding way. What does that mean, you ask? LISTEN to her. Make time to listen to her and understand who she is and what she cares about. You want a better sex life? Start with being an attentive husband that honors his wife and lives with her in an understanding way.
Notice the latter part of the verse: “…that your prayers may not be hindered” I may just have to explain this in this way: if you are not talking to and listening to your wife, God is not interested in what you have to say to Him. If you are going to have a life worth living you need to be listening to and talking to God and your wife.
If you want smooth sailing in your life and marriage, seek Christ first!