“Kids are resilient and everything will work out fine” a lie from our godless, or should I say anti-Christian, culture often quoted by a parent willing to give up on marriage and family.
For the Christian, divorce should not be the first option, separation should never be a consideration unless physical violence necessitates separation. People who stay under the same roof have a better chance of working the situation out compared to each going to their own fan base that will only see their own side of the matter.
Marriage is hard, especially when each person does not seek Christ first. Marriage works better when you follow Christ as an individual first and remember the marriage is about what you can give not about what you will get.
Consider the creator of the universe, the One true Holy God, the Lord Jesus himself on the very night He would be arrested washing the feet of His disciples. Can you get that picture? This is the earliest representation of the bride of Christ served by the Head of the body. Jesus knew he was the leader but He also knew He came to serve them and us with what He was about to face.
We do not find Jesus saying I have had a long day and I am about to go through horrible things for you and I can’t do anymore. We find the Almighty Glorious Savior in a humbled position, still leading, still the bridegroom, but in the role of a servant. That is what the moment required, not to rise to the occasion but to lower himself in humility for their sake and for our sake.
So, who told you to throw in the towel when marriage gets tough? It was not God! Even though in counseling couples I have had a few try to make that claim. Hey, you married him or her, don’t look at me. Questioning your own judgment? I guess it seemed like a good idea at the time. Regardless, true happiness can only be found in obedience to Christ. Often that requires us to deny ourselves and seek Him first.
Hey, let’s be biblical!