Would you like to know how to create a monster, one that bears your same last name and possibly even looks like you? Raise your child in a child centered home where every decision is based on the happiness of the child. If you start at birth, you will be in complete misery by age 5 and in full blown rebellion by age 14. (rough estimates but when you are creating a monster who cares how long it takes) This is how we create a monster, ruin a family, possibly ruin a marriage and create a potential burden on society.
GOD is to be the center of your home, not the husband, not the wife, not any of the children. Let me be a little more specific about GOD, by GOD I mean JESUS, the King of kings, the Lord of lords, the Alpha and Omega. This is the JESUS that rightly makes the claim that He is the way, the truth and the life and that no man comes to the Father but through Him, in John 14:6
I do not want you to think I might be talking about any other god, but the ONE TRUE GOD who is JESUS. When you allow your home to be child centered, the child becomes your god. When your child decides whether, or not, your family goes to church, or when your child’s activities keep your family out of church, you are living in a child centered home.
The decisions you make in your home are to be made seeking GOD first. Not only is this the best possible way for your family, you are also teaching your children to seek God first. When we fail to do this, and I have at times, we are creating the background and foundation for the future decision making ability of our children.
We have the Bible for a reason and it is extremely relevant and deadly accurate for how to live life, for how to have a good marriage and for how to raise children. Yes, the Scriptures are ancient but more powerful, more alive and more needed in our lives today, than ever before. An all knowing, supernatural, loving and long-suffering, sovereign GOD wrote the Bible for you and for me, to give us the direction we need today in these modern times.
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1 Peter 3:7 (ESV)
7 Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.
I will admit it here and now, I was not prepared to be a husband when I got married over 28 years ago. Honestly I thought it would all just come to me naturally. I guess I thought I could just “wing it”.
Nothing could be farther from the truth for any man, there is not a young, single man walking the planet today that has a clue, about how to be a husband and there are many older married men today in the same boat.
That boat will sink and your marriage will either fight to tread water, or will drown because of apathy. Are you apathetic in your marriage? Are you day dreaming about a “better life” without her, or with someone else?
That is not a dream, it’s really a nightmare and you need to wake up. The past is the past, so do not linger on what has already happened. Awake form your slumber and start bailing water, repair the holes and the get ready to hoist a sail. It is time to get this marriage underway.
You start by living with your wife in an understanding way. What does that mean, you ask? LISTEN to her. Make time to listen to her and understand who she is and what she cares about. You want a better sex life? Start with being an attentive husband that honors his wife and lives with her in an understanding way.
Notice the latter part of the verse: “…that your prayers may not be hindered” I may just have to explain this in this way: if you are not talking to and listening to your wife, God is not interested in what you have to say to Him. If you are going to have a life worth living you need to be listening to and talking to God and your wife.
If you want smooth sailing in your life and marriage, seek Christ first!