Sin is our problem and everyone deals with sin and the temptation of sin. Our culture today is teaching everyone, even Christians who listen, that happiness is more important than holiness.
When we speak of holiness in this context the meaning is simply to choose not to sin, over choosing to justify, rationalize, or excuse a poor choice to willfully sin for the sake of personal, temporal, happiness.
In sort, we desire to take the “short-cut”, or hit the “E-Z button” rather than follow the will of God revealed in the Word of God. Speaking of the Word of God, let’s go right to the scripture:
1st Corinthians 7:10-11
10 To the married I give this charge (not I, but the Lord): the wife should not separate from her husband 11 (but if she does, she should remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband), and the husband should not divorce his wife.
As a pastor, I am tired of watching church members willfully sin and choose to divorce. We can all be deceived, we can all fall into temptation but I am responsible for every person God places under my watch care “as one who will give an account” before God Himself.
The Word of God, is the Word of God and stands absolutely clear on the subject of divorce.
NO; things are not different now, God is immutable.
NO; I do not care what you read in “Cosmo”, heard from Dr. Phil, or watched on The View.
What have you read in the Bible, heard from the pulpit and seen God do in other people’s lives that trusted God rather than wing it on their emotions?
Marriage is hard, but worth it because God is in marriage and marriage is about two believers, in Jesus Christ, bringing God glory through their marriage. If you are being tempted to call it quits in your marriage it is because you are giving in to the flesh, to the culture, to godless influences and as a Christian you are in WILLFUL disobedience to God.
There is nothing so far gone, that God cannot bring it back. Save your marriage today, cry out to Jesus, ask God for forgiveness, then believe Jesus for what you cry out for, then get up and ask for help with your marriage and be humble enough before God to join with your spouse in biblical counseling to restore your marriage.
Saving your marriage does not mean staying together in a miserable marriage, it means letting God transform you, your spouse and your marriage for His glory.
God’s Word teaches everything we need to know, in principle, about life. While you cannot always get a specific answer from the Bible, there is a biblical principle that covers every single situation you will ever encounter in life.
I am not going to spoon feed you this time, this article today is more of a work sheet, which means you get to do some of the work, as a learning exercise.
Let’s talk about love and the things we love then look of the scripture reference given to see what God says about the things we love. Fill in the blanks and when you are done you have something to use in teaching yourself and your children to be biblical.
Love _____________________ 1 John 2:15
Love _____________________ Proverbs 21:17
Love _____________________ Psalm 52:3
Love _____________________ Proverbs 20:13
Love _____________________ 1 Timothy 6:10
Love _____________________ 2 Timothy 3:4
Love _____________________ Proverbs 1:22
Love _____________________ John 3:19
Love _____________________ 2 Timothy 4:10
Love _____________________ John 12:43
So, be careful with what we “love” that we should always remember to love God with all our heart, mind and strength and love our neighbors as ourselves. You closest neighbors are those living within your own home, so start there and work outwardly to the glory of Jesus Christ.
Would you like to know how to create a monster, one that bears your same last name and possibly even looks like you? Raise your child in a child centered home where every decision is based on the happiness of the child. If you start at birth, you will be in complete misery by age 5 and in full blown rebellion by age 14. (rough estimates but when you are creating a monster who cares how long it takes) This is how we create a monster, ruin a family, possibly ruin a marriage and create a potential burden on society.
GOD is to be the center of your home, not the husband, not the wife, not any of the children. Let me be a little more specific about GOD, by GOD I mean JESUS, the King of kings, the Lord of lords, the Alpha and Omega. This is the JESUS that rightly makes the claim that He is the way, the truth and the life and that no man comes to the Father but through Him, in John 14:6
I do not want you to think I might be talking about any other god, but the ONE TRUE GOD who is JESUS. When you allow your home to be child centered, the child becomes your god. When your child decides whether, or not, your family goes to church, or when your child’s activities keep your family out of church, you are living in a child centered home.
The decisions you make in your home are to be made seeking GOD first. Not only is this the best possible way for your family, you are also teaching your children to seek God first. When we fail to do this, and I have at times, we are creating the background and foundation for the future decision making ability of our children.
We have the Bible for a reason and it is extremely relevant and deadly accurate for how to live life, for how to have a good marriage and for how to raise children. Yes, the Scriptures are ancient but more powerful, more alive and more needed in our lives today, than ever before. An all knowing, supernatural, loving and long-suffering, sovereign GOD wrote the Bible for you and for me, to give us the direction we need today in these modern times.
We would love to help you find what we have found in JESUS and in HIS HOLY Word, the Bible. We have found forgiveness, new life, peace, love and direction for everyday life. We hope you will keep reading our blog and we pray you find it helpful.
Contact us today, or join us at one of our services, because family matters!
1 Peter 3:7 (ESV)
7 Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.
I will admit it here and now, I was not prepared to be a husband when I got married over 28 years ago. Honestly I thought it would all just come to me naturally. I guess I thought I could just “wing it”.
Nothing could be farther from the truth for any man, there is not a young, single man walking the planet today that has a clue, about how to be a husband and there are many older married men today in the same boat.
That boat will sink and your marriage will either fight to tread water, or will drown because of apathy. Are you apathetic in your marriage? Are you day dreaming about a “better life” without her, or with someone else?
That is not a dream, it’s really a nightmare and you need to wake up. The past is the past, so do not linger on what has already happened. Awake form your slumber and start bailing water, repair the holes and the get ready to hoist a sail. It is time to get this marriage underway.
You start by living with your wife in an understanding way. What does that mean, you ask? LISTEN to her. Make time to listen to her and understand who she is and what she cares about. You want a better sex life? Start with being an attentive husband that honors his wife and lives with her in an understanding way.
Notice the latter part of the verse: “…that your prayers may not be hindered” I may just have to explain this in this way: if you are not talking to and listening to your wife, God is not interested in what you have to say to Him. If you are going to have a life worth living you need to be listening to and talking to God and your wife.
If you want smooth sailing in your life and marriage, seek Christ first!
Marriage requires dedication, focus and selflessness but more than anything marriage requires both spouses to submit to the authority of Jesus Christ. If you are not a Christian, I hope you will allow me to share God's life changing message with you by emailing me: firstname.lastname@example.org
For two Christians who are married to each other, there is always hope for a better marriage. If you have drifted apart, which is a common problem, chances are you are have drifted in your walk with Christ as well.
Marriage is about worshipping God, by the way to love your spouse. Marriage is about giving, not about getting. Jesus Christ needs to be the most important person in every marriage and in every home. We are to put our spouse next, then our children and not worry about ourselves. If you are a genuine Christ follower this will not be a problem, once you get your heart right with God and trust God, not your spouse, to meet your needs.
When both spouses are seeking God first and loving their spouse second, with no regard for themselves, marriage begins to run on all cylinders. I know this is not popular and it is certainly contrary to what the secular world is saying today. If you are tempted to ask:"What about me and my needs?", then you are not ready to trust God to meet your needs and bless you and to bless your marriage. It is a heart change for both spouses and you may need some help getting there, if so, that is why we are here.
One blog post will not fix the problems in any marriage and this is why we hope you will consider our church as a resource for biblical marriage and family. Allow us to invest in your family. If you are looking for a church home, why not visit us this coming Sunday? See our home page for information and remember: Family Matters!
What does it take to take to go to the next level in any endeavor? All things require some talent, some acumen, some common sense and some determination but there are two things people rarely want to do, to go to the next level: 1. Sacrifice and 2. Work hard.
I recently read that even Lebron James had to make sacrifices and had to work harder after arriving in the NBA. As I read about Lebron, I gained a new appreciation for an athlete that so many seem to hate. I learned something from Lebron James that can be transferred into any endeavor in life.
First, we all know that having goals is what sets acheivers apart from those who just get by in life. I read about Lebron's simple goal in life that helped me understand why he sacrificed time outside of regular practice and sought help from a special coach even after he made it to the NBA. Getting to the NBA was not Lebron's goal it was merely a vehicle, or tool, effective in Lebron reaching his one simple goal.
Perhaps I should expalin that in my opinion most people are content to get to or merely half way, or in rare cases, one step past there wildest dreams and then they stop trying, give up, or self -destruct in some way. I believe this is what is wrong in the American church among many born again believers. Complacency, apathy and contentment with mediocrity kills marriages, kills job performance, kills all types of relationships and it is killing the church in America, as a whole.
If you read Thom Rainer you will soon discover that the growing and effective churches are not churches that accept mediocrity, nor are they complacent. Great Commission churches are fueled by a passion to glorfify God. So, they have goals and they are strategic and they do not settle for mediocre talent in leadership and mediocre expectations for the congregants.
So, what does this have to with Lebron? Lebron's goal is to be the best basketball player in the world. So, even after he makes it to the NBA and he is cashing big checks and he is on ESPN and in Sports Illustrated; Lebron is doing grunt work behind the scenes to improve his weaknesses. Lebron worked with a shooting coach to improve his 3 point shot. As a rookie, defenders would mock Lebron about his 3pt shot and sometimes not even guard him outside the 3 pt line.
Even after Lebron had "arrived", there was still work to be done. Even after you are saved and become part of a church there is work to be done for the kingdom and for your own personal growth because as born again believers in Christ, our goal is not to be saved from hell, our goal to bring glory to God. To bring glory to God we must always give our best effort, be willing to allow God to change us and make us less like ourselves and more like Him.
So, whatever your hands find to do, do as unto the Lord. If you are part of a church get involved, volunteer, use your God given talents. Be faithful, be available, be teachable and live to the glory of God. What areas of your life need to improve? Do you give your best at work and not at home? Do you give your best effort hunting and fishing, but not at church?
We never arrive as Christians. Christ provides salvation for us and calls us from darkness into the light, but we never arrive. While salavation is complete, we are far from being what God will be in us and through us, if we will die to self and die to laziness, complacency and mediocrity in our own lives and as church members.
This why we are going to make some significant improvements at Stave Creek, or at least I am going to continue lead us in that direction because God deserves our best. We can be better to His glory. The things we have planned for this year are for God's glory and our own good. Join me in working the plan, acheiving the goals to the glory of God in obedience to the Great Commission. This will require sacrifice and hard work. This requires not settling for just getting by. Jesus did not cut corners nor did he leave the job unfinished. So, join me and lets reach southwest Alabama, America and the world with the gospel of Jesus Christ!